How about if I explain the name, Bliss after 40? When women in their 20s and 30s come across this name, they shrivel away from it a bit. 40 is such a scary age to them! I remember being there. You probably do too. That’s okay. They’re not my audience. Women who have passed the magical milestone of entering their fifth decade just get it. They get it right away. Women over 40 are really just coming into their power! This is when we get serious about following bliss. OUR bliss. Up to this point, so many of us have been consumed with other priorities. If you’re not yet 40 and single, you’re probably consumed with furthering your career, with finding the right partner, with having fun (which is different than following your bliss, by the way.) If you’re married, you may be consumed with your relationship with your partner, with properly raising small children (or just keeping them alive and well), and with furthering your career.
But at about 40, maybe a few years in, most women realize that what they’ve thought they were supposed to be doing, things like furthering their career or being super mommy are just not all that blissful. There’s a nagging need to turn our attention inward to our own growth and personal development. We realize we’ve been stretching ourselves too thin taking care of everything and everyone around us but there’s very little satisfaction. It doesn’t feel right any more. It doesn’t feel blissful. Don’t get me wrong, I encourage you to be the best mommy you can be, I encourage you to pursue the best professional self you can be, but are you being the best YOU you can be? Are you living authentically within your values, pursuing a career or cause that brings out your passion, and nurturing yourself in ways that support your whole wellness?
I recently had an astrological reading with the fabulous Vicki Fisk, and she confirmed for me that women in their forties are naturally inclined to reinvent themselves, she said, “everything is up for review” at this stage; we’re examining our lives, identifying what no longer honors us so we can re-imagine or discard those things and make room for more rewarding endeavors—more blissful endeavors.
I think I’ll end this first post with the definition of bliss as I imagined it when creating the company, Bliss after 40. Bliss is the state we are in when we have defined our core values and are living authentically and intentionally within those values. Bliss is when we have identified a purpose that resonates fully for us and that we’re passionately working toward. Bliss is when we’ve embraced the most honoring ways for us to nurture our whole selves—this looks different for everyone. What best serves you? Do you know? I’d love to help you find out…